Shame is fear of Dis-Connected
Connection is why we're here - It's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives. This is what it's all about.What we know is that connection, the ability to feel connected --neurobiologically that's how we're wired -- it's why we're hereShame is really easily understood as the fear of disconnection: Is there something about me that, if other people know it or see it, that I won't be worthy of connection? The things I can tell you about it:it's universal; we all have it.What underpinned this shame, this "I'm not good enough," -- which we all know that feeling: "I'm not blank enough. I'm not thin enough, rich enough, beautiful enough, smart enough, promoted enough."The thing that underpinned this was excruciating vulnerability, this idea of, in order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen, really seen.