HOW DO YOU MEASURE YOUR LIFE ?
Simple algebraic equation of LIFE: aX + bY + c = P
Where P is what do we want in Life?C is a constant on which we do not have any controlX and Y are the variables on which we have a controlA and B are again constants on which we do not have control.Generally the most difficult thing is to find the right question, right problem, right objective that is P. We have so many forces acting on us and hence, with those generally what we chase is P+K or some other shit. For some people P keeps on changing with time, because they are never sure if its the right thing which they want in life?
Hence, to measure your life or to bring peace in your life or to become happy in your life or to get the sense of maturity in life, where no external factor creates any trouble in your life, firstly you need to find what do you want?
Second is what you need is variables of things that basically will take you to thing/situation/goal you have in mind. List down all the things.
For example: My objective in life is bring a +ve change in human's life at global/mass level. (I have introspective in terms of why I need this and at what cost and etc)
My next question is that to achieve this what do I have to do? i.e. list down your variables.
Start chasing your variablesFor few those the value of A/B will be higher and hence they might need to put a lower X/Y, but for you may be the value of A/B is lower and hence you would need to put more hard work to make sure that AX+BY becomes equal to P, even if the value of C is zero.In this time sometimes the variable B becomes negative, i.e. your family angle, your society angle, your girl friend doesnt want you to reach P, because in thr perspective, they think either it is un-achievable or they will lose you as an individual once you reach P. What do you do when something like this happen ? Increase X, the only variable truly in your hand.--------------------------------------------Few lines from some where which I like:
Because it’s all in how you choose to measure success. I don’t measure my success by displays of monetary wealth. I prefer to measure it based on social and global impact. Is that totally self-serving and biased? Absolutely. And that’s the point: You get to choose how you measure success.
Most of us are never told this. It’s not something we pick up in school or church. In fact, most of our social systems are built with their own metrics of success built into them which we are then expected and sometimes forced to follow. Get good grades. Make tons of money. Go to church. Buy nice things. Raise a nice family. Watch football.
It’s vital that we remember that they’re not absolute. We shouldn’t limit ourselves to them. Money is nice, but one can choose to see it not as the absolute measure of wealth, but as a useful tool to help achieve true wealth. Religion gives billions of people’s lives moral direction, but that doesn’t require one to believe in religion to be a good, moral person. Relationships and family are important, but lacking them doesn’t make you any less valuable as a person.
Again, we get to choose. And the beauty and the frustration is that we’re all different, so most of the time our metrics will be different.
The Happiness Hypotheticals are powerful tools because they can show us what metrics of success actually matter for us. Many of us think relationships will make us happy, but emotional health should be the goal and relationships the side effect. Many think popularity will make them happy, but one should do something important and noble and let the fame be the side effect.
As humans, we’re all driven by happiness and meaning, but we often get caught up in unnecessary status concerns and superficial comparisons. When we create hypothetical either/or situations between those comparisons and happiness, it can quickly sort our priorities out for us. Tools such as these show us ways in which we can measure our own success.
I’m not famous, but I improve people’s lives. That makes me successful. You’re single and alone right now, but you’re happy and proud of yourself. That makes you successful.
We must take care in choosing the way in which we measure success because the metrics we choose will determine all of our actions and beliefs.
The metrics of success which we choose lead to long-term real life consequences, and they determine everything.