Mile na the hum aap se juda hone keliye
Par naseeb ne majbur kar diya
Mange the khuda se is kadar aapko ki
Khuda ko bhi majbur kar diya
Par sajis thi aap ki khuda se ki
Khuda ne naseeb hi badal diya....
“A world without love is a deadly place”
“Since the heaven and earth were created, you were made for me and I was made for you, and I will not let you go,” declared Chang Po to his beloved Meilan (Yutang 1954, P.73). The Chinese still cry over this Chinese fable.
Paris and Helen, Orpheus and Eurydice, Shiva and Sati, Laila and Majnu, we can come accross thousands of stories, poem, writing accross centuries over continents. There is one single thing common i.e Love. We spend our lives searching for it, talking about it, craving it. Love is called the greatest virtue. Sometimes we can't express it, it has to be felt.
Love is complex and fascinating. Romantic love is more complex and more mystery, hard to explain. As per psychological studies romantic love is associated with emotions, motivations and behaviors. In romantic love lovers experience extreme energy, hyperactivity, sleeplessness, moodswing etc. An important property of romantic love is 'intrusive thinking'.
Our Brain on Love..
We think that love and relationships are art than science, but there is actually a part of
science involved with falling in love. Both men and women experiences many changes during romantic love. Did you know that the chemicals released when we are falling in love are similar to the chemicals released when a person uses cocaine? Its true. But what is in that love that puts a person on 'cloud nine'?
“The first step in the process of falling in love is the initial attraction, It’s the powerful moment when we meet another person and feel energized and are immediately aware of our heart pounding.” says Elizabeth Kane,a clinical psychologist of South University. By psychologist Robert Sternberg, the three components of love are 'intimacy', 'passion', and 'commitment' - ( according to Triangular theory of love)
Intimacy, Intimacy refers to feelings of closeness,
association with our loved ones.
Passion, Passion refers to the strong and intense desire for love and sex.
Commitment, is the decision that one loves other, and commitment to maintain that love.
“Romantic love evolves when one feels a sense of interdependence, attachment, and that their psychological needs are being met.”
Science behind love..
I have some beautiful experience of watching my friends falling in love, even I watched myself falling in love. Person in love always smile when they talk about their mate, and they always like to talk a lot about them. Although people experience love uniquly. There are biological attraction behind the initial attraction and falling in love.
Dopamine, which is originated from brain and adrenal glands, stimulates the release of testosterone. Dopamine affects the genitals, the sweat glands, and also the senses. probably you have noticed that when you are in primary stages of love, you sweat more. As a consequence of dopamine release, mood and emotions are also influenced, leading to feelings of excitement and satisfaction. On other side, testosterone increases sexual desireness and aggressive behaviour and it may push someone to pursue the one who is fueling this intense response.
The neurotransmitters norepinephrine and phenylethylamine(PEA) act to focused attention. Norepinephrine is a stimulant, so it causes individuals to feel alert such as unable to sleep, and make them to notice and remember even the tiny of details about their mate. PEA is responsible for the feelings of dizziness. If the relationship doesn’t last, and PEA levels decreases and are responsible for the feelings of depression that can be experienced.
A feedback loop starts to form, with a brain reward system becoming involved. The reward system transmit chemical messages, via neurotransmitters, to various parts of the body, including the stomach, skin, genitals and other organs, which causes them to reciprokete to the brain. During the primary stages of love, this reward system is stimulated through very simple way such as, a lover’s touch, seeing their photograph, or even just thinking about this person can increase elevated mood. According to the study conducted by Dr. Helen Fisher using functional magnetic resonance imaging(fMRI) on those who were passionately in love(ten women and seven men) found that those brain reward system got activated even on looking at their lover pictures.
Where we are going...
Love, the word itself brings smile on our faces. The existance of love in in Every single civilization, era. But a few people thniks that romantic love i.e romance is created in twelveth century but first love poem dated 4000 years back. But some says love is the most powerful force in universe. Can we imagine our life without love? What if love would not exist in future? Have we ever thought about these question? I think most of us will say 'no'. Because we cannot live without love whether that love is for our mate, love for our children, love for our parents, love for our society. Only love can bring peace in our hectic world. We cannot say about future, we only can predict it. Let's see where love will take us!
What can be the conclusion of an infinite feeling! It does not matter whoever you are, love always guide your life and your daily life activity. Love will give you meaning of everything in nature. Love is worth us and what we possess. Love drives from our heart, and let it be driving force of everything and let it live in our heart to influence, guide, heal and motivate yourselves and others.
“Where there is love, there is life”
Human beings are born to be free. Freedom is a perception to every single person. It is a concept to every one. Freedom is ability, it is a feeling. Freedom may be physical, mental or social. We lead everyday life with some basic question in our mind. At least once these questions have crossed every person's life i.e “Who we are?”, “What are we made of?”, “Are we really Free?”. Perhaps thousands of years have passed we are still searching for the answer.
Who are we?
Who we are? What makes us? That is the question of millennium. The simple answer is 'we are human being'. We have evolved from cro magnon through biological evolution. But are just human , just another species!? In my opinion we are more than just another species,we are unique. Everyone of us has different physical structure, different behaviour,different perceptions, different feelings, various cultural background and appearance. Nature has made us what we are today. In us each egg and sperm contains 23 chromosomes and when sperm penetrates an egg 23 chromosomes pairs with another 23 to produce 46 chromosmes. Each chromosomes carries genes,segment of DNA. DNA synthesizes protein, that is what makes us.
What are we made of?
From the dawn of the time, we have questioned ourselves. 'who are we?', 'what are we made of?'. I think these questions do not have any definitive answer. It is the matter of individual's perceptions of their life. In my opinion everybody is made of the belief of their own. I was brought up into a Hindu family. No one is born with their own belief. Beliefs are fed to people with time. In our world everything was supposed to be the same, but due to different religion, beliefs, culture that has not been possible. As I was growing up I was raised Hindu. But it was not my belief, it was fed to me. We should not let anyone else to take decision in our life, we must take the bull by the horns. Life is what we make of it.
Human beings have the ability to do whatever they wist to do. We have the power of our own destiny. We have resources, ability, and potential . So we must make our own belief. Only the belief will make us what we really are.
Are we really free?
As human beings, we really like the idea of 'freedom', being 'free'. But what is freedom? The answer has various form and means. Freedom is an idea, practice. Freedom is the act of free mind. Freedom is a bird flying in the sky without the fear of being shot down . Freedom is the ability to decide the course of my daily schedule and overall life course. Lastly freedom is having what is rightfully yours.
Now the question, are we really free, in my view in most of the forms we are not really free. We are bound by some rules set by others irrespective good or bad. As we are indian citizen, if you don't take our newly formed laws and rules into account, most of our acts are inspired by British acts. British ruled our country for more than 200 years in a way that they only trained us , they did not educate us. So how could we have our own view. Everything are inspired by them. Here 'inspired' is mostly in 'negative' way. Everything they had done in our country was for their own good. Article 10 of our constitution provide us freedom. But i don't take it into account. I am not talking about individual's freedom, I am talking about freedom on a whole. For that kind of freedom our life will be worth living. Till one single person is oppressed , one single community is repressed, we are not free, the genuine meaning of freedom is farce. We can't enjoy our freedom till someone is deprived of it.
Freedom is our birth right. Human have born with freedom. But according to our constitution everybody has the right to be free, but we don't live into the short boundary of constitution, do we? We live in our real world. Being free is not easy, but it is not difficult also, we have to achieve it in long run.