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Surdas went to God’s temple, then people said - “How did you come?” Hesaid - “I came to see God” People said - “You do not have eyes, how will you beable to see God?” He said - “If I do not have eyes for beholding God, then doesThakurji (God) not have eyes? He said, but God will be able to see me! He willbecome pleased on seeing me, and my work will be done.”Now Brother! Sister! Pay attention. Just as I have no eyes, but God haseyes, with that He sees me. Similarly gentlemen! If you do not have awareness ofGod, then does God not have awareness about us? If in our knowledge God is notknown therefore I am Surdas, but are we not in God’s awareness? When we are inHis awareness, then now we have never to worry about anything at all. Just as achild is in his mother’s site, till then no one can do him any wrong and whatever isneeded for the child, the mother will arrange everything for him. Similarly, whenGod’s presence, we are never are distant from him, then our protection, provision,welfare etc. whatever is needed, that all he will do.God’s says in the Gita –Ananyaascintayanto maam ye janaah paryupaasate;tesaam nityaabhiyuktaanaam yogaksemam ahaamyaham.( Gita 9:22)"To those men, who worship Me alone, thinking of none but Me, who areever-devout, I make provisions to protect what they have and I also provide themwith all the necessities that are required." (Gita 9:22)"macchitah sarvadurgaani matprasaadaattrishyasi” (Gita 18/58);"By fixing your mind on Me, you will by My favor, conquest all difficulties, butif your ego does not let you listen to Me, then you will be lost"; and“matprasaadaadvaanoti shaasvatam padmavyayam” (Gita 18/56)That eternal ever-lasting post can also be attained by My grace,”The point is that in knowledge, the Lord’s grace is present, then He willprotect us from the inauspicious and will make us attain Him. However our mindmust remain fixed on God. Our trust and faith should all be on God. If our trustand faith is not on Him, His grace will shower on us. He is already making all theprovisions for us. Whatever is for our welfare, and eternal good, his is naturallydoing that for us.We see pleasure and pain in two different forms, that pleasure is separateand pain is separate. However in God’s abode, pleasure and pain are notseparate. Just as“laalane taadne maaturnaakaaroopnyam yathaarbhake |Tadvedeva maheshasya niyanturgunadoshyoh ||Mother does not have two different feelings while loving or scolding. Withonly one feeling, the mother loves and scolds. In other words, with a heart filledwith love, she loves the child, and seeing towards what is for his good, she alsoslaps him. Then does she do anything that is harmful to the child? Never ! In thesame way, when God does what is in accordance to our wishes and other timesnot, rather He slaps us, then in His doing, we must see that He is our mother! Maa!Whatever is favorable or unfavorable, whatever it be, in that is our welfare,whether we understand it or not.Does the child understand mother’s efforts? Does a child have any power tounderstand her endeavors? No ! A child has no such power to understand abouther struggles. The child has no need whatsoever to understand her labor. Hesimply lies in his Maa’s lap. Likewise, there is no need for us to understand whatGod does and how he does it. How is He, where does He live - we have no needto know all this. Does a child know where his mother was born? Whose daughteris she? Whose sister? Whose wife? Whose sister-in-law? Whose aunt? Wheredoes she live? How does she support herself? What does she do? Whatbusiness does she do and at what time,? Etc. The child knows nothing aboutthese things, and also the child has no need to know this. Similarly how is ourGod (Maa)? Who is she? Whether she is beautiful or not? Whether she is harshor compassionate? Whether she is good or bad? Whether she is helpful or harmful? etc. etc. what have we got to do with all of this? Simply that she is mymother. Whatever is good for us, she will do on her own. What do we know ofgood and bad? What understanding do we have about what is good and what isnot? Do we have that knowledge? Can we see that? Oh! What can Surdassee? What do we understand of what is good and what is not? What is proper andwhat is improper? There is no need to explain any of this talk at all. Simply, I amHis and He is mine. He alone is my mother, my father, my brother, my friend, myfamily member and He is everything. And He only is my wealth, my possessions,my glories, my land, my property etc. He is everything –tvameva mata cha pita tvamevatvameva bandhuscha sakha tvameva |tvameva vidyaa dravinam tvamevatvameva sarvam mama devadeva ||"You are my mother, father, brother, friend, knowledge .....You are myeverything."If someone asks you, who is your mother? God! Who is your father? God!Who is your brother? God! Who is your companion? God! Who does yourwork? God! Everything is only God. Everything is only Maa. Just as for a child,the mother is the clothes washer, mother is the hair dresser, mother is the midwife,mother is the one to breastfeed, mother is the Lord, mother is Guru (spiritualguide), mother is servant, mother is also a sweeper, etc. Mother is the one whodoes even the most menial tasks and even the most skilled tasks. Like that,everything is only God, then what are we worried about!Chinta deen-dayaalko mo man sada anand. It is joy and only joy in ourminds. Simply bliss ! Whether He is worried for us, not worried, what concern dowe have of this? Just as whether the mother is worried or not about her child,what concern does the child have about this! She is worried about him on her own;because the child is her very own. It is no obligation for her to care for her ownchild. Rather it is her duty. Whether she does or does not do, what has the childgot to do with it? Child has no concern whatsoever regarding this matter. God toois like our mother in the same way, that is it! He is our mother. We neither have todo anything, nor do we have to know anything, nor study anything; but only remain joyful at all times. We have to blissfully play. Lying in the mother’s lap,simply play, laugh and be happy. Why must we be happy? Because the mother ispleased, i.e. when we are happy, then the mother is pleased. For her pleasureonly we are sitting in her lap, playing, jumping, and doing all work. We have noconcern with anything else at all. We are only concerned about our one mother.Whatever a mother owns, it is all to provide for the child. A mother’sstrength, intellect, abilities, education, body, clothes, house, etc. all of it is forthe child only. Similarly, whatever capabilities, power, extra-ordinariness thatGod has, it is all for us only. If it is not for us, then who is it for? Therefore at notime should we worry about anything at all. Even if worries occasionally arise,then, say to God - “He Naath! See! worries have come” Just as when a child isthirsty, he says “Boo Boo” and the Maa feeds him some water. In no languagethe expression “Boo” means water, but the minute a child says “boo”, the mothergives him water to drink, similarly in whatever language we say anything at all, ourMaa (God) will understand it -Gungaa teri baatko aur na smajhe koi |Kai samajhai teri maavadi kai samajhai teri joiJust as a man who cannot speak, his language is understood by his motherand his wife. Who else will understand his language? However, whether Godunderstands our language or not, this too should be of no concern to us. We mustsimply continue to call out “Maa! Maa ! Surely a child does not use some specialmeans to call out to his mother. He simply continues to say, Maa! Maa! In thesame way, simply continue to call out “Maa! Maa! That is it! There is nothingmore that needs to be done. Maa appears dear, Maa’s name is pleasing.Therefore lovingly say - Maa! Maa!! Maa!!!We met a gentleman. He said that when I rotate the “mala” (Holy beads),then I make the sounds that are made while relishing tasty food. Now what is themethod of doing “bhajan”! We simply have to make the sound of relishing goodfood. With great joy, repeat the Lord’s Name, chant His name. Whatever you do,do so joyfully.“What will happen ? How will it happen ?” - we have nothing to do with all
of this. The mother is concerned about these things, and she worries about all
this. Just as Mother Yashoda and Mother Kaushalya worried about when will my
“Lala” (loving son) get married? But the “Lala” does not understand what marriage
is and what it is not? He is simply rejoicing and playing around in his own joyful
state. Similarly our Mother worries about what will happen to her child, how will it
happen? We have no concern about all this, and we have no need to even know.
Mother knows and her work knows! We have to remain in bliss and bliss alone
and remain in the mother’s lap! What a jubilant point this is. What a blissful thing!
“Tu jaane tera kaam jaane” You know and your work knows. Saying so, become
free of all worries, free of fear, free of remorse and free of all doubts. We have to
remain ever blissful and jubilant. At all times we have to be carefree and happy.
We have no work whatsoever, only rejoicing, remaining blissful! Our
responsibility is only one and that is, to remain joyful, to remain blissful at all times.
It is a good feeling to call the name of mother - Maa ! Maa ! Saying Maa! Maa !
is a dear and affectionate feeling, therefore we repeat His name. Ram ! Ram!
Appears sweet, therefore we say so. In this there is no rule or ordinance that we
must repeat so many times. What is there in that many times or the other? We
are saying Maa Maa, out of our own will. How are we to repeat the Lord’s Name?
How many times? How is “Bhajan” to be done? How much bhajan is to be done?
With all of this, what is our intent? The name of Maa is dear to us, therefore with
great joy, with pure delight and contentment (prasannataa se) we repeat the name.
We are simply in ecstacy. We are experiencing great joy. We are very much
pleased! We are most delighted and contented!
Mukh Raam Krishna Raam Krishna kijiye re |
Sita Ram ne bhajan laavo lijiye re ||
Nayaran ! Narayan !! Narayan !!!
Five Golden Principles
Wherever you live, there you are living in your home. The significance is not in living in your home, but if you live in God's kingdom then there is much significance and greatness. This home (kingdom) you have called your own. But this home was from the very beginning belonging to God only. Even right now it is God's and later on also it will remain God's. If you die, then surely this house will not go with you. It belongs to God only. Therefore from today onwards, accept that I live in God's home. Really speaking you are living in God's home. When you come to Haridwar the you say - Oh ! this is gateway to God's home. When you come to Vrindavan you say that this is the place where God engaged in His divine loving pastimes. When you go to Ayodhya then you say we have come to God's palace. Accept it as God's kingdom or God's home, then this very house that you live in will become Vrindavan. At all times let that thought prevail, that I am living in God's home, and we are his very dear ones that belong to him. From today onwards accept this. All of you, do not consider your home as belonging to you. Oh' It is God's home! We have considered it our home in the middle somewhere. Before it was God's, and later on it will be God's then in the middle how can it become ours? Simply for no reason you have put a stamp on it. There is a point that you must pay close attention to - whatever work you do, accept it as God's work and then do it. Whether it is washing your clothes, taking a bath. This body is also God's, therefore to serve God you are doing it's work. Eating and drinking is also God's work. Office work and business is also God's work. The Master of this entire world is God, therefore the master of all the bodies is also God.Therefore work related to this body and to this world can be whose work? It is God's work only! What a wonderful thing this is! We live in God's kingdom and we are doing His work - these are two points. Now the third point is - All the things that are in the house, they too belong to God only. If the house belongs to God and you belong to God then can the things belong to someone else? Mothers and sisters should want that they should take those things that belong to God and cook with them. In the mind must be the thought that Oh! it is for offering food to God that I am cooking this meal. Now offer the foods prepared to God and thereafter however many people that are in the house, understand them to be God's people and offer them food.Understand them to be God's loving people, they are God's very loving and sweet children. I am feeding them. I am serving God. Just like if you love someone's child, then his mother will be very pleased, won't she? similarly, if you serve God's children, then God will be pleased. What a wonderful point this is! Cooked God's food, offered it to God and fed God's children with the prepared foods. When you eat yourself, then too think of it as God's "prasad" (partaking in the food offered and blessed by God). How very wonderful! "Tumhi nibedit bhojan karahin | Prabhu prasad pat bhooshan gharhin || (Manas 2/128/1) As discussed earlier, make everything an offering to the Lord; not just food. If you wear jewellery, offer it to God "Thakurji". Wear only those clothes that belong to Thakurji. Let all things be taken in as if it is "prasad" (offering to the Lord), then all things will get purified. Have you seen this or not, that when food is offered to Thakurji's as "prasad" and is later distributed to all, then every person will bring forth their hand to receive the "prasad". Even if the smallest portion is given, then too he will be happy. Whether he is a millionaire or a billionaire, he too will bring his hand forward, and if you give him a small piece of the "prasad", he will be happy. Is this person hungry for sweets? If some millionaire or a billionaire asks for "prasad" and if you tell him let us go to the market and I will buy it for you from the market, then he will not be happy. He will say, am I starved of sweets or what? I want "prasad". Now tell me the importance of "prasad"? It is Thakurji's (God's) "prasad" (offering to the Lord). Everything in the house belongs to the Lord. If you follow this, then I would like to share with you a very great point. Have mercy and simply do it, then it is very great thing and very beneficial. Place "tulsidal" (the sacred basil leaf) on all the money - wealth that you have at home. On all the jewellery, clothes on everything place "tulsidal." Even for the house, offer it. On all animals, place tulsidal. On all children, place "tulsidal" Now whose children are they? They are Thakurji's (God's) children.It is like magic. If you are able to do, then I will share, but do it from the heart, then it will be magical. Son is rebellious and does not listen. With a true heart, lift off the proprietary interest (sense of mine-ness) you have in him and say that he is not mine at all. He is only Thakurji's (God's). The son will become totally alright. Just as when food it offered to God it become sanctified and many great people revere it. Similarly, with a true heart, completely wipe off your proprietary interest and only consider him as belonging to Thakurji (God) then he will be purified. He will become sacred. Try it and see for yourself. The challenge is to completely lift off your proprietary interest. Just like another person's child, similar is this child. if he dies then too no affect on you. He is not our child, if he dies the it is Thakurji's, whereas Thakurji's never dies. If he dies here, then there he is born. He is never apart from Thakurji. By doing so, the son will be purified. It is the truth. Sense of mine-ness (mamta) itself is impurity. Sense of “mine-ness” (proprietary interest) is impurity. It is due to mine that there is impurity. If you give donation - charity, then have no relation with it. “Daatavyamiti yadaanam deeyatenupakaarine” (Gita 17/20) “Anupakaareene” does not mean that the other person does not do anything helpful. IT is an understanding that previously the person did nothing beneficial, and there is no expectation that he will oblige in the future. Give donation to such a one, with whom you have no self-interest. Give to such people. Do not keep a selfish relation with family members. Both will lead to the same, as in the end only one will remain. Serve where there is no sense of mine or where you serve there get rid of the feeling of mine. It will be the same thing. We are God’s. We live in His kingdom. We do His work. We receive his Prasad. And with his offering, we serve his children. I too am receiving his “Prasad”. This is true “Pamchaamrt” (Five Golden Principles). From today onwards, grab hold of these points. “Sarvabhaaven maam bhajati” and in all sentiments and feelings worship only the Lord, therefore have the sentiments that this body belongs to “Thakurji” (My Lord). I am doing my Lord’s work. Then you will be able to do a favor for the Lord that Maharaj! (Great One) I am doing your work. A Brahmin used to keep saying - daily I feed one Brahmin. He used to eat himself and have the sentiments that daily he is feeding a Brahmin. It is such a great thing! Similarly, the entire family and various families all belong to Thakurji (God). I am taking care of Thakurji’s family. Even Thakurji says that he is taking care of the family Brother! God will be touched that yes! It is true! He is taking care of my family. When there is no sense of mine-ness, when there is no attachment, then God says that He is taking care of my family.In all sentiments, let God’s work alone be done. This will turn into pure devotion “avyabhichaari bhakti” We want to take nothing, we have no sense of mine-ness. There is neither selfishness nor proprietary interest. Whether home members listen to you or not, whether they serve you or not, we have to serve Thakurji’s family. We have to serve him, Brother! If family members do not work, then we should be happy, it is a good thing! If they work and do everything according to our preference, then understand that our good deeds are getting exhausted. Therefore if they do nothing and further give us trouble and sorrow, then it is a good thing. Even if mother-in-law causes suffering, if daughter-in-law gives sorrow, if sister-in-law or any one give pain and sorrow then be happy, thinking we are greatly benefited. We have to serve, and if they give pain then we will be doubly benefited. On one hand there will be benefit of serving “seva” and if they give pain and sorrow then your sins will be reduced. When will suffering remain, tell me? Even on getting suffering, there will be joy. There will be no place remaining for sorrow and suffering. All roadways will be blocked, then that itself is “sarvavit”. Have you understood this well? If you are becoming happy and unhappy with this world, then you have not understood this well. We are living in ever bliss. We have not the least bit of unhappiness. God supports, protects and takes care of everyone. He takes care of all, then such a devotee of God does not experience any sorrow at all. They remain ever blissful, they remain so joyful that with their association you feel delighted and intoxicated. By remembering Thakurji (God), bondages break off. Simply by reciting the divine Name, by remembering the Lord, by listening to His divine plays (stories) sins are destroyed, He is that pure. “Pavitraanaam pavitram yo mangalaanaam cha mangalam" In essence what is the point? It is a small thing. “I am only God’s” not anyone elses. For serving I belong to the world, but for our own purpose, I am no one elses. I only belong to God, simply accept yourself as being God’s, then this house belongs to God, this kingdom belongs to God, this family belongs to God, the wealth and possessions belong to God, the work is God’s, the food is God’s everything will become God’s. This is the absolutely Truth.I am sharing based on my very experience. The child that the mother has accepted as her own, when he climbs into the mother’s lap then the mother is pleased and joyful. If he climbs from the back onto her shoulder, then too she laughs and if he intentionally pretends to cry ‘Um-Um-Um” the Maa smiles that look he is pretending with me. What is that action performed by a child that the mother does not like? The child is mine. Similarly being God’s if we do all work, then all our actions will become worship and adoration of God. What to speak of worship and adoration, it makes God pleased, happy. Whatever work you do, God continues to remain happy. He is my child. My child is playing. What delight! The point is only one, to become God’s. This is the truth. If I ask you that have you taken birth in this household knowingly? If you are living, then are you intentionally living? If knowingly you are living, then who would be dead? No one would die. If you are living in a healthy body, is it knowingly so? If you were knowingly living like this, then do not ever fall sick. Whatever strength and intelligence you have, has it been knowingly acquired? Then why get old? Don’t become dependent. But you are becoming dependent. Therefore this pride is your own, nothing else. Your are simply filled with pride. Therefore I am Thakurji’s (God’s). I am dependent on God. Whatever strength Thakurji (God) gives, that alone I do. How much work did Hanumanji do? When Ramji went to Lanka, he created a bridge and then crossed the bridge. But Hanumanji simply flew over to the other side. Whose strength does he have? The strength that Hanumanji has comes from Thakurji (the Lord). “Baar baar raghubeer sambhaari.” “prabisi nagar keeje sab kaaja. Hrdey raakhee kosalpur raja.” It comes in Valmiki Ramayan that Hanumanji roared that even if thousand Ravans come they cannot spoil anything of mine, I am servant of the Lord (Thakurji).The world is suffering due to pride. Therefore have mercy and leave the pride, offer it to God, that I am God’s. All our strength has to be applied in doing God’s work. “Tvadeeya vastu Govind tubhyameva samarpaye”, “Sarvabhaaven bhajati maam” - with all sentiments they worship and adore God. Divine Name recitation is adoration, chanting holy name is adoration, reciting various scriptures is worship and adoration, to listen, to share, is all worship. By “Sarvabhaavena bhajati”, getting up, sitting, eating, drinking, sleeping, waking up, all work is God’s work that we are doing. What an elevated thing this is. We have taken refuge in the Lord and we will do only His work. The work is not ours at all. This is not our house, therefore it is no our work. All work is Lord’s work. I have heard from saints, he who cannot regard anything as his own, neither the mind, nor the intellect, nor the body, nor the life breath, nor the senses, nor the house, nor the wealth. When all things belong to Thakurji (Lord), then wherever they live there is nothing but joy! Everything is given to the Lord. Therefore they remain ever blissful. We have heard one thing about a Saint. Saints are very unique. When they go to the market and see the various different sweet dishes that are displayed, fruits that are kept and stores that are well decorated. Wherever they see some great things, there they stand-by and in their mind say, Lord (Thakurji), please partake in this offering. Please take these sweets as an offering. Simply standing they blissfully offer it to the Lord. Similarly, you too offering everything to Thakurji, please accept this offering, then it all becomes an offering. You tell me, what is the difficulty in doing this? Then you too do this. Who is preventing you from doing so? Wherever you see anything wonderful, offering it to the Lord (Thakurji). Everything belongs to Thakurji. What should we do? We will simply rejoice. Now we have no work remaining. Now it is only Lord’s work, Lord’s Name, Lord’s contemplation, listening to Lord’s divine stories. What work is remaining for you to do? You are doing the Lord’s work. Lord is the master of all the work in this universe. By offering everything that belongs to the master at his lotus feet, how much do you have to exert, tell me? You tell me that this is mine, but for how many days? How many years will you continue to say that it is mine? As such it will eventually remain the Lord’s. Therefore while living, turn it over to Him from the heart, then it will be joyful! What an easy and what a deep well grounded point this is! Saints have said - “Ram naam ki sampada do anter tak dhoon | Yaa to gupatee baat hai kaho bataave koon" Who will tell such a great point? And how easy it is! What a high class point this is ! What a worriless, fearless, blissful point this is ! neither worry, nor fear, nor dejection, nor desire to live, nor desire to die. We have no desire whatsoever. May our desire be blended (one) with the Lord. Now however the Lord does, however he keeps us -
“Jaahi vidhi raakhe Ram, taahi vidhi rahiye |SitaRaam, SitaRaam, SitaRaam kahiye"
We have no demand, nor any wish. By this our troubles will be wiped out, and God will become pleased with us. By considering it as ours, there will be worries. It is my room. Certain things are lying there. Clothes are drying there. Someone will take them, then there will be worries. Now when it is all offered (turned over) to God, then what ecstacy ! If it goes away it is the Lord’s, if it remains it is the Lord’s ! Narayana! Narayana! Narayana!
From book in Hindi "Jeevan Upyogi Pravachan" by Swami Ramsukhdasji
My first birthday 🚫
And it was a bright sunny day of mid summers, in the mountains of shimla..
A usual day for "Aira" , an innocent, beautiful girl with two long braids , wearing a frock and specially she was cathoyant....
Aira is an orphan, living in "SAINT MARRY ORPHANAGE SHIMLA".....
➡Come on get up, wash all the clothes kept in washroom, then you have to cook todays meal....
With a sad grin on her face, Aira went to wash clothes....
She decided to wash all the clothes on the stream, going through their backyard...
➡Have you bought the reports veer?
Veer, i am asking you something, what is in the reports?
➡Saba.....reports are positive, you cant bear a child........
And saba was broken...she started crying, she was waiting for a child from last 15 years....
And today finally the reports said.....she cant bare the child..
Veer and saba, a couple, who were married 15 years ago, were desperate to have a child, but it was God's
Will....Saba could not have a child...
➡veer.... we should adopt a child..
➡Saba are you sure, will you be able to give someone else's child , that love which it will deserve.
➡we have no option...i want to have my child veer...
We will adopt a newborn, so will be able to grow him/her as our will..
➡ok saba...lets see
➡No veer...i will today to the orphanage, come on get up...get up veer...
Aira was busy washing clothes...
Humming a tone, la la laaaa laaa laa la la lala la...
We have reached veer.. see its written on the board
SAINT MARRY ORPHANAGE .....
➡Excuse me mam...
➡we are here to adopt a child, can you call the warden of the orphanage...
➡yes sir, you take a seat...i will call her..
And both were seated......
La la laaaa laaa laa la la lala la, saba and veer were listning to this tone, and both of them looked out of the window....
➡she is so adorable saba.. isn't she?
And both looked at each other ....
Yes they where going to adopt her...
Aira was going to have parents....
And finally the documentation was done...
➡Aira....You are now "Aira veer"
And a beautiful tint could be seen on the trio's face..
1 year later____
Saba and veer are roaming in the hospital corridor..
➡Doctor, she was palying , she suddey fell down and i saw blood oozing out of her mouth..
➡Doctor what is wrong with my child.....How is my Aira?
➡we have to wait for the reports....
This incident took place just few days before the family was going to celebrate Aira's first birthday..
➡Mr. Veer, she is suffering from tumour...stage 3
She has very less time left with her..
➡she was going to be just 1 year old for us doctor...
And saba and veer broke down
Her birthday was to be celebrated on 8th of August, so saba and veer prepeared to give her surprise..
It was 11: 59
➡Happy birthday to you, happy birtday to you, happy birthday dear Aira...
She did not responded...🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫
She could not be one for us....
Veer and saba shattered...
"Pregnancy is not equivalent to motherhood. Pregnancy is a biological phenomenon. Every girl, a healthy girl, physically healthy, is able to become pregnant; but just because you can conceive it doesn't mean you have to have a child. Just think of many other things: you have to give a psychological womb to the child, a spiritual womb to the child. Is it ready?If it is ready, if you think it is ready, go ahead: have a child.I will start telling my people to have children, but let me prepare my people first. Then you will be happy to have a child and the child will be happy that he was fortunate to have a mother like you.Otherwise just go to any psychiatrist and ask 'What are people's problems?' They can be reduced to one thing: the mother. You ask [the Primal therapist here tonight], you ask our therapists, 'What is the problem with people?' All problems can be reduced to the mother, because the mother was not capable of giving a psychological womb, the mother was not capable of giving a spiritual womb.Psychologicallyshe was neurotic, spiritually she was empty, so there was no spiritual food for the child, no nourishment. The child comes into the world as a physical being, without a soul, without any centre. The mother was not centred; how can the child be centred? The child is simply a continuation, a continuity of the mother's being.For me it is perfectly good, whether you become a mother or not is not a problem for me. But one should see all the implications of it. If one sees all the implications of it, very few people will decide to becomefathers and mothers.And it would be a better world if fewer people decided to be mothers and fathers. It would be less crowded, less neurotic, less pathological, less crazy.
Why do I love a girl who made it clear that she doesn't and even though another great girl love me but I don't have the same feelings for her and I still miss my ex everyday and each day, it's been 10 years, I tell people that I moved on but I didn't, why?
This question was asked in Quora(Quora is social media app where people ask questions and get answers) to me by probably not an Indian
Read the answer below
Well, you have some serious issues
You should be consulting with a very good psychologist or psychiatrist instead questioning here on Quora.
This is not a laughing matter, you have issues buddy, as you said it's been 10 years!!!!
I know plenty of men who has the same experience as you have so you are not the odd man but they would have moved on by now and even if they aren't attracted to this current girl, they would go out with different girl to give himself fair chance and also tell this current girl the truth lightly as it could break her heart as well
Question yourself (although you may have already done everything but you seem to me the kind of person who might not)-
Why do I love her?
Why do I only love her?
Why do I feel I can't survive without her?
Do I believe too much on this soul mate crap?
Have I seen too much rom com?
Am I a very unrealistic person?
Why doesn't she feel the same way about me?
What is wrong with me?
Am I ugly?
Am I an unemployed person?
Am I out of shape?
Don't I have any sex appeal?
Why am I not attracted to this current girl?
Is it because she is ugly?
Is it because she doesn't have any sex appeal?
Is it because she doesn't know how to be romantic?
Am I some kind of love sick obsessed dick?
Now let me explain your type of male brain (I don't know you personally so let me go all the way, you can choose yourself, which is possible for you)-
You believe too much on this soul mate bullshit, buddy, subconsciously or consciously
This is why you are programmed to obsessed over her even though she clearly stated otherwise.
You probably have some kind of wild fantasy with her and it is so strong in your brain (it relaxes you, it gives you extraordinary peace) that you can't help but think about her everyday as it never fullfiled, in reality you will be disappointed more likely even if you are with her
You believed this fantasy of yours is only possible with that girl, this current girl doesn't even belong in the same league
Or you have a very simple fantasy with her, as it could be nothing to with sex but everything else like cooking with her, sharing stuff with her, cleaning with her, going to places with her, laughing with her, the way she looks at you, it isn't possible with others
You believe she understands you better than any other person or you don't want anyone to understand you as you feel either it could be better than her and you might forget her and you don't want that or she will not measure up
Maybe she left you because she knows you well
Have you ever thought about that?
Now I am guessing that you are not too outrageously ugly otherwise another girl who could be very ugly as well wouldn't have any feelings for you as she also doesn't have much options it seems, anyone else would have moved on by now knowing your obsession about that girl but she still here and that tells me she doesn't have much have options and ugly and you are incredibly lucky idiot
Now you don't have to settle with a girl that you don't have any feelings
But have you checked yourself infront of mirror?
Are you some kind of Tom Cruise?
I am guessing that you are not
But no-one is but they don't have this kind of unhealthy obsession with one girl either
Do you feel that you have some other skills like to make her laugh or something??
Let's get one thing straight-
You are wrong in so many occasions-
There's no such thing as soulmate in real world that only exists in rom com, either you have an wonderful chemistry with a wonderful girl that you are lucky to find or you grew into that eventually after some point of time, now this is what happens in real life
Unless you are one of those picking up girls type and regularly sleep with girl, speaking from personal experience those men lie a lot, they don't pick up as much girls as much as we are told, they go most nights alone, I know from experience
These men constantly groomed themselves and learning new ways to pick up girls, are you doing any of these things??
Girls generally like men who are well behaved, have good hygiene, but they also know who is a pick up artist, have a good job, stable personality, so that they can have a future with them
Those girls who are just trying to have sex, they also don't go for desperate people, they could go for badasses to thrill themselves as it is one night stand but it is just sex for one night and they also knows how to make sure that it doesn't turn into anything more than that, and if you are thinking otherwise, let me tell you don't, it won't, people are more capable of handling their emotions than you might expect so they would seem more cold than you expect, is something like that happened with you involving that girl?
A reality check for you buddy, real life is nothing like romantic movie, even if you are with your so called soulmates, you are going to have problems, I mean ugly problems, you need to adjust to each other, and if you are not with your so called soul mate, it's not that bad either, you will have a lot of unexpected surprise, it could be something that is beyond your expectation, you might end up having better experience than your wildest imagination
And what is this obsession with one Girl?? She is a human being with two boobs and one vagina, other Girls also have that, how do you know that they are not good enough for you? How do you know about everything about everything? Are you some kind of all knowing God? You are treating one girl as some kind of superior angel over others and insulting rest of girl population in the process, this is not very rational thinking
I think real problem is with you not whether she loves you back but you like being in this obsession with her, you like this whole process which is why even 10 years have not changed anything for you
This is why I told you about consulting with a psychologist or psychiatrist in the first place
You might not be in love with that girl
You are in love with this obsession of yours
Yeah, don't get surprised
This could very well be the real truth
Buddy, nothing is impossible, you can get out of this unhealthy obsession and move on and be happy with your life
You just need to give yourself a proper chance
Whenever you feel you are missing her, do these-
Involve yourself with positive, constructive work
You could involve yourself with some organisations that helps the poor people, helping the needy can be great peaceful and heavenly feelings, nothing can beat that, you will start to see the world differently
Groom yourself constantly
Go to gym
Go to dates
Meet as much as girls as possible
Don't expect anything, in dating world rejection is normal, you are only going for experience and to keep yourself busy, don't talk about ex in dates, treat her well, just have fun nothing more, again don't expect anything, just have fun, anything is possible
You will get over her
She isn't some special girl but just another one
You are special as well
You deserve better